You can have the relationship you want.
     
        “You’re not listening!”
"I just can't trust you anymore."
"The past is the past. I don't want to talk about it anymore.
"
"Why aren't we intimate anymore?"
"You care more about your phone than you do about me."

 

Do any of these sound familiar?  These thoughts and feelings are common when your relationship is not working the way you had hoped or expected.



Alexandra Rickeman, LCMFT

Marriage and Family Therapist

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Whether you are looking to improve your relationship or you are feeling hopeless about it, there is good news…

                                                             Things can get better
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Most couples I work with have goals that include:
-being able to comfortably, confidently, and calmly discuss any topic
-genuinely enjoying each other's company again
-stopping the cycle of attack and defend
-feeling like they have a partner
who "has my back"  
-trusting each other again, especially following betrayal
-focusing on each other again after years of putting the kids first
-improving physical and emotional intimacy

When couples are both interested in making these changes, so much positive change can happen!

Yes, it can be uncomfortable at first to come to counseling of any sort.  It involves meeting a stranger and telling them about your personal business. Some people are concerned that they will be judged or blamed, and others are concerned that talking about issues could make things worse. While this makes sense, it's more common that therapy feels like a safe place to be able to have productive conversations that improve the relationship.  By looking at the cycle of your relationship, in which both people play a role, it's rare that one person feels blamed or at fault.  When couples see how much both of them really do want to have a close bond, even though their behaviors can be hurtful or mean, therapy becomes a way to work together to reconnect.


Having a partner you can rely on, lean on, confide in, and laugh with is the type of connection most people want and need in their lives.  It is possible to work towards these goals in your relationship, no matter what struggles and circumstances you've
 faced in the past.

 

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Are you a business owner or operator, or are you self-employed?
 I specialize in helping couples in which at least one partner owns a business.  
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